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Recognition vs Affirmation

Dear readers,

As i am writing this blog right now a part of me is still concerned if ya’ll like reading to what i write and if it has any significance or not?

Seeking validation from people or a constant urge to please them has been one of my flawed charcteristic that has been troubling me lately. Everytime i post a picture on instagram i simply spend an hour or so thinking if people would like it or not let alone the impact of the amount of likes and comments i receive on the picture. Many a times i resist myself from speaking in public fearing if my opinion will be rejected. All of it sums up to me suppressing my own voice and my original self.

I always want people to like me and make me feel belonged but as a matter of fact this cannot not be the case everytime. I craved external validation like candy but this may not be always sweet and accessible.

To counter this i have made it a point to keep journaling about what i feel about myself everday. It will eventually help me evaluate my growth. Also, i have been trying to stop compairing myself to others and accept my unique self. I have started prioritizing my self and my goals. I have normalised it to be always crticizing myself. After all it keeps you growing right? This shall keep us going and growing.

Love,

Ishanya

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Vincent Ehindero blogger awards

Blogging was one of my many impromtu decisions that i made and within a short span of time after joining wordpress i was nominated by Vernika (https:wemenblogs.wordpress.com) She is a gem of a person. I would like to thank her for always being so supportive. Her blogs are the most relateable ones.

THE RULES ARE:

  • Thank the person that nominated you,with the link to their blog.
  • Make a post of the award (with the photo)
  • Post the rules.
  • Ask 5-10 questions of your choice.
  • Nominate 10-30 bloggers.

ANSWERS TO HER QUESTIONS:

1.What is self love for you?

Self love for me has always been about trying to love my flaws and i admit it that i haven’t been able to be completely successful at it. I have realised that it is a process and it will continue at every phase.

2. Would you sacrifice yourself for somebody else?

Before sacrificing myself for somebody else i would always think upon the fact that what the person means to me. If the person is worth my sacrifice then i will probably go for it.

3. Have you ever felt inferior or extremely confident? If yes, describe one of the events briefly.

I have been a person who suffers inferiority complex since elementary school and one of the several instances where i felt inferior was back when in elementary school a teacher selected a few fellow girl students to take part in a miss world competition and did not select me. This made me feel as if i was not pretty enough to take part in a competition like that.

4. Describe your end goal of life in 3 adjectives.

Contentment, Learning and Progress

5. If your life was a book, what would the title be?

A NARCISSIST SOUL

6. Create a short quote by yourself

“Your flaws are beautiful. Embrace them”

MY SET OF QUESTIONS ARE:

1. When are you your authentic self?

2. Which song do you relate with the most and why?

3. If you were to live in one country/city for the rest of your life where would it be?

4. What will your day dream look like?

5. What am i most proud of?

6. If there is anything you would like to learn what would it be?

I NOMINATE:

http://imanishas007.in

https:/thoughtsbyawallflower.wordpress.com

https:/absolutefactsdotblog.wordpress.com

Hope ya’ll accept my nomination and enjoy answering the questions!

Love,

Ishanya

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Quarantine tip 101

Hola! Have you guys have also been experiencing the same pressure to stay productive and positive during quarantining? We all do!

Quarantining has proved to be really stressful for me and overthinking has kept me awake during nights which often led to anxiety. When we do not have anything to be concerned about we tend to create our own problems in our head and start complaining and repenting about them. This attracts negativity and makes us feel bad about ourselves.

A very helpful hack which prevented overthinking was to engage in some kind of learning and entertainment. Binge watching netflix or engaging in some kind of workshop has helped me get out of my head. With this being said i do not mean that one should have any pressure to remain productive because it is not about doing what everyone is doing but to do it to learn for self integrity.

Love,

Ishanya

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POINT CHECKLIST: you are enough.

Dear readers,

Hola! Feeling low and discouraged? We all do at some point and especially during this time when everyone is locked up in their homes.

Being an introvert, isloationism is a treat but practicing it makes you overthink about baseless thoughts. However, there is a comforting prospect to it as it gives one space and time that she/he needs to give themselves.

We often depend on others for the appreciation we need to give ourselves but end up being disappointed. We start questioning our abilities and become our worst critique. We create a flawed perception of ourselves. It is okay to feel low as it is a phase and this shall pass too. Let us all take a moment and be proud of ourselves to have made through so much and realise that you are enough.

Love,

Ishanya

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Take One!

Hi everyone!

So i have been contemplating about writing a blog since a long time now but couldn’t gather motivation to do so. Doesn’t everyone lack motivation at some point? but here i am finally writing one.

I will be coming here and writing posts often. All the content will be related to lifestyle, mental health and basically everything. Hope y’all relate and enjoy while i write!

Love,

Ishanya